1. The wife that wins all arguments with her
husband is not wise. The home is not a law
court.
2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in
the home -placing embargo, going to bed in
jeans shorts and trousers - lacks wisdom.
3. The wife that uses the modern trends and
laws of"women's rights" to insult or ridicule
her husband simply makes a fool of herself.
4. A woman that makes her home devoid of
peace through bickering, nagging and
quarrels needs help. A man should be
eager to run away from office to beat home,
for that should be the safest and coziest
place on earth for him.
5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not
mean competition. It simply means
partnership. Taking advantage of such
equality to turn around and become the de
facto head of the home and oppress the
man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you
destroy your home, soon you will be the
boss of an empty home.
6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good
that he assumes that he is the head. Once
he gets that feeling, the woman gently
wields her power and the head actually
turns to wherever the neck wants without a
protest.
7. A wife that does not pull herself away
from friends' influence and advice or even
from the control of her mother and father will
have herself to blame.
8. When a man is looking for a wife, he
bypasses women of different shapes and
sizes to choose a wife. But soon after
childbirth, many women hide under the
excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves.
Many stop bothering about their looks,
shape,dressing, etc. Within 5 years of
marriage, people start wondering if the wife
is the man's aunt, even though she is 7
years younger. Her defence is that if he truly
loves her, he should love her the way she
is. But when looking for a wife, he saw
people like the present YOU and ignored
them and settled for the former YOU. Today,
you goto bed smelling of onions and ogiri.
You go to bed wearing grandmothers'
clothes.
Why are you playing with your marriage?
Love is not about looks -we know. But looks
enhance love and marriage. There is a
difference between someone disfiguring
herself and the person being disfigured by
an accident. Please don't be complacent. As
hard as it may be, work on looking like you
were when he first saw you and began the
chase.
9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore,
down with headache or fever, "not in the
mood," you are a joker, a serious comedian!
10. If your children suddenly become more
important to you than your husband, you
need prayers.
11. If you assume that as the woman, only
you need to be pampered and fussed over
while the man is a stone that has no
emotions, you need to be pitied.
12. A woman that has the mind of a wife
does not excite her husband. Wives are
usually complacent and presumptuous.
A wife must strive to have the mind of a
girlfriend.
A girlfriend is always nicer,sweeter, more
loving and always thinking of ways to wow
her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to
win all arguments, does not call the man
a"uselessman", is not careless about her
looks or dressing,always smiles and laughs
with the man, sends the man sweet
messages and calls, etc.
Are you your husband's girlfriend in word
and indeed?
Just like character is the most important quality of a good guy, the woman you’re going to marry should have good character as well. When you find her, she is more valuable than anything. Here are 10 qualities of a real woman and wife material:
1. She shares your beliefs
When it comes to finding your wife, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” It has nothing to do with weightlifting for those of you guys who like muscle women. Your potential wife should have the same beliefs you have. Now, you may think you can do some missionary dating, and turn that situation around so she will believe everything you do. You’re probably going to be very disappointed with some bad side effects. If you don’t have the same core beliefs….good luck.
2. She makes you a better man
If everyday is hell with her, that should be a red flag. Your potential wife should elevate you to Yourself 2.0. You can get a good idea from your friends and family. Do they say you act differently in a bad way when you are around her? Not a good sign. She should bring out the best in you, not bring out heartache and frayed nerves.
3. She’s trustworthy
In fact, she should inspire trustworthiness within you. If you don’t trust her, you’re probably making her as bitter as you’re making yourself. Not worth it. If you can’t trust her, maybe you’re not ready to date her or maybe you need to work on confidence issues within yourself. If there’s good reason not to trust her, don’t even go there. Just like any cheater, it’s bound to happen again.
4. She has ambition
She should have strength in character and carry herself with confidence. As a man, you should be the leader in the relationship, but for any dictators who feel justified here; we’re talking servant leadership. You probably don’t want the consummate follower either. She should have plans too. In fact, she should be a hard worker just like you. That doesn’t mean having a job is a requirement. One of my friends is a stay-at-home wife with three kids, and she works harder than any of my friends with careers.
5. She’s selfless
She should care about others. Look at the way she treats her family and her friends. If she’s not close with her family, and doesn’t have any good friends, that’s not a good sign. If you start dating her, much less marry her, you will discover why soon enough. Some questions to ask yourself: Does she care about causes? Does she go out and volunteer? Does she give change to the needy or buy them a meal? These are important characteristics to consider.
6. She’s attractive
In your eyes, she should be a “10.” When my wife walks in the room, I’m awestruck by her every time. She’s beautiful from the inside out. However, I’ve dated “hot” girls who ended up being downright ugly by the time we broke up. Personality plays into attractiveness big-time. Just remember, “charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.” She should be beautiful down to her soul because that kind of beauty lasts forever.
7. She’s smart
You’re going to be spending a lot of time with her, so she should be able to hold a good conversation. She should be wise, smart, and give you good advice. Her women’s intuition should be strong. I look to my wife all the time for advice. She’s collected all sorts of wisdom from her mom. She remembers everything. Yes, everything….maybe too much.
8. She loves you unconditionally
If she’s trying to change you to be another person, it’s time to move on. Your future wife should love you just as you are, regardless of anything you’ve done in your past. There will be minor adjustments along the way, but if she nags you about your core characteristics, it won’t get any better in marriage.
9. She’s responsible
Does she remember appointments and meetings? Does she flake all of the time? She should already do a good job of managing her own life. If she’s got loads of debt and doesn’t work, you’re going to be taking all of that on. Ultimately, she will have some part in your financial well-being, and guess what? Finances remain one of the leading causes of divorce.
10. She gets along with your family and friends
If she doesn’t even try to connect with your family and/or friends, let her go. She shouldn’t be critical of the people who you love and have been loyal to you throughout your life. There might be cases where your mom doesn’t like your future wife, and that may require your intervention; but in general, she should be a good fit with the people in your life. Marriage is a joining of two lives that existed prior to meeting the other person.
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